You can’t stay locked up in there forever.
I’m sure that many people have said it; now I realize how true it is.
You have to face the past sometime.
That’s why I decide to go ice-skating, even though it reminds me of 5th grade and all that happened that year.
You young people think you know everything.
Now I realize how wrong we all were back then. There were other things to fight besides each other, other ways to win people over besides force, other things to do besides collecting secrets for the use of tearing people down.
You can choose your friends but you’re stuck with your family for life.
I think someone got that statement a bit backwards.
You can choose your
friends family but you’re stuck with your family friends for life.
That’s better. But I’d better explain a bit more, just in case anyone was wondering…
Everyone knows you by who you hang out with. No one knows each others’ families unless you’re part of a certain minority group. That’s just how it works nowadays. Unless you’re from a small, rural town. Then maybe not. The point is, once you’ve publicly established who your friends are, then you’re stuck with them. If you backstab each other, it’s a betrayal; a scandal. With family, things don’t work that way.
Your family is made of people who support you. That’s why you choose wisely and don’t tell anyone (outside of family, of course) who you chose. Then, if someone becomes unsupportive, it’s not a betrayal or a scandal. It’s just a normal quarrel that happens within families.
So, how do you choose a family? You look at everyone you know; go back to the memories of each person that stand out to you. Cut out the people who hurt you, who lied to you, who tried to take away your sense of self. Then you start sorting- the ones supported and accepted you, the ones who respected you, the ones who defended you, the ones who loved you no matter what. They are your parents, cousins, siblings, and grandparents. They are your family.
At least, that’s how I see it.